Solution-oriented conflict management in the youth welfare service who together want to fashion with young people in emancipatory processes, which is of all once encountered in the situation of the young people themselves. He must deal with their inner and outer reality with their development tasks and the challenges they must face. The good intentions of the education rules: 1 don’t spoil me. I know very well that I can get everything I ask or seek. I want to you only to the test. Remember, your clarity and your leading no grows my inner attitude towards myself. 2.

be not afraid is to stand firm in dealing with me. Me this attitude is better because I feel safe then and know what I myself can relate. 3. preventing me to accept bad habits. I need to trust, that you recognize them in the approaches.

4. do not reprove me in the presence of my friends, when it avoided. If but not then please as respectful, humble me before the others. 5. If not stunned, I tell you I hate you. I hate you, but your power to thwart my plans. 6 let me in my development-proper scope my own experiences make and not protect me from the consequences of my actions. 7 pay too much attention to my small ailments. Only sometimes, you give me the affection I need. 8 not nagging. If you do, I can protect myself by the fact that I am deaf. 9. make no false promises. Remember, terribly feel left in the lurch, if promises are broken. 10. encourage me to try new! 11 live in me, to do things independently. 12 praise me even at small increments of self-sufficiency. 13 leave me my friends even choose, support me, if you can see difficulties in friendship relations, but my friends never do bad. 14 agree if I myself stand alone set apart with her siblings. 15 never simple an argument, by you niederbugelst all parties with your authority. 16 me exemplify partnership and relationship make joy. 17 but not under-imagine tasks for which I am ready for that challenge me, / overwhelming. 18 didn’t throw the towel, if you encounter difficulties. I need your trying out with bite and a long breath as a model act. 19. make mistakes and show me that error help and are not a disaster. 20 be proud of me if I bombard you with questions, because I want to learn a lot. 21. you can quietly age according to feel me and let know that there are things for you to worry. 22 I believe, that I can even withstand disappointments and pain. 23 don’t think please, it’s beneath your dignity to apologize for me. An honest apology can grow my affection and my trust in you. 24. If I have questions, and this brings to you, please take time and take them important. Because otherwise I can’t be more to you with my questions. 25 don’t say that my fears are silly. For me, they are frighteningly real as all my feelings. Help me to calm it by trying to understand them. 26 please never forget how quickly I grow up and keep step. 27 don’t pretend like you’re perfect and infallible.